Giving and taking vs gifting and receiving

Many people would look at these words and think they are talking about the same thing, but are they? 

Let’s explore further: 

A gift is something given willingly without expectation of anything in return

To give is to hand over something such as money time a possession or commitment. It often has the energy of sacrifice and expectations attached. 

A true gift is never a sacrifice. 

Nature and animals gift all the time, and we receive. The sun gifts its light and the rain gifts its water and they ask for nothing in return. This true gifting and receiving. It is a state of openness and a calm heart free of expectation.

From this state we can receive something as simple as a car park in a crowded shopping centre or find money on the footpath, or see the smile of a child that warms our heart. It makes us feel like sharing what we have and gifting things to people such as a smile, or a random act of kindness.

So what is the difference between give and take? 

To take has the energy of possession. To take something without permission, to be on the take, to take and hold something. It often has the energy of greed attached. 

So the energies are very different. 

Gifting and receiving has a flow and non ownership of things. It has a lightness of energy and it makes you feel uplifted. To truly gift and receive you are in a place of non expectation. 

To give and take is more like a business deal. The energy is of ‘I gave you this so you owe me.’ And the energy is heavier and more solid and stuck. 

Which state would you rather be in and where have you been operating from? Give and take and expectation? Are you wondering why things dont come to you easily?

Which works better for your life?

When have you been minding your own business and not expecting anything and something suddenly has come in as a great surprise? This has been because you were in the energy of receiving. Of being open and in flow. 

Gifting and receiving can apply in all areas of your life. Your work, your relationships your business and your sex life. If you are living truly from your heart and being open without judgement or control your life can transform in miraculous ways and things are easy.

So if you are feeling unhappy and stuck Mayb look at where you have been locked into the give and take energies. 

Let me know how you go!! 

The way of women

During my life I have had much opportunity to observe and interact with others both personally and in my counseling, mediating, facilitating, massaging, designing and mentoring work. 

Today I’m going to talk about women. 

What I have noticed is how much women do not support other women. How often they invalidate, demean, shame and undermine through competition and jealousy for men, career and beauty. 

Women, let’s stop this now. It’s toxic and divisive. Stop letting other women down. 

Time to look within for that which you are seeking externally- give your self the validation you seek, love your body, be authentically you and not a ‘clone’ of someone else you see in a magazine or you tube channel. There is not another single person like you. You are unique, your gifts are necessary and you are part of the web of life. You are of value because of this. 

Bringing others down to make your self feel better is never a solution for anyone. Stop trying to compete with men as well. 

You are an incredible being that can create and birth a whole new life into this planet. That’s how extra ordinary you are. Regardless of your choices, sexual preferences or anything else that is essentially you. You are amazing as the authentic you. So go digging for this. Forget everyone else and be you. Do the work you need to do to clear the hurt, the shame and the trauma from your own life. Don’t cause more of this for others. 

Be brave and face you and love you as a drop of the divine. 

The universe always loves you and love is always present. 

If you have fallen out of love with you, what can you do and who can you be today to tap into that love again?